An interesting conversation between Alicia and Todd. Alicia, someone who vehemently abhors pornography, pontificates her views on the subject...
"It not only degrades and objectifies the human body but also desensitizes the human being and weakens his need for healthy, intimate relationships." In response to the latter part of her statement, Todd chides, "Well, if you're addicted to it, that could be one result." He then adds, "But it's normal and natural for anyone to crave sex... and however one chooses, within reason, to satisfy that craving is his or her own business."
Alicia: "So you mean to tell me that if you had an 18 year old daughter who decided to become a
porn star because it would be an exciting way to 'satisfy' that craving, you'd be okay with that?"
Todd: "First of all, if she were 18?, No. She'd need a little more life experience before making a decision like that. If she were 28, that'd be a little different. I'd say she's a full-fledged
adult and any choice she makes would be her own and something I wouldn't judge her for.
Alicia: "Okay, so you're a loving father, why would you. But would you like or dislike her choice?"
Todd: "Well, what father would 'like' their daughter being a porn star? No, I wouldn't 'like' it, but
I'm her father... I'm not supposed to 'like' it."
Alicia: "Well, what's sad is... every woman that's ever been in pornography is SOMEONE'S
daughter...or someone's sister... or even someone's mother for that matter. And while you're whackin' off to these women!...somebody else is whackin' off to your daughter!--A LOT of somebody elses. Is that not even a little disgusting to you?
Todd: "Like I said, it's an individual's choice. If these women didn't like it, they wouldn't be doing it. And as long as it's not my daughter I'm whackin' off to... I'm not worried."
If you were in the room with Alicia and Todd, who would you agree with? Alicia? Todd?...Both? Why or why not... and would you have anything to add?
5 comments:
I'm not real educated on the whole pornography thing, but it appears that most of the women who are porn stars crave a male attention to fill some void that they didn't get during their childhood.
So, I'd say, if you're an involved dad, your baby girl might not be inclined to BE a porn star.
I only have boys. But if there ever were a little girl, I would be very opposed to her being a porn star. VERY.
I kind of agree with Todd and Afro. A mix. I think he's right. A 28 year old can surely make her own decisions...we're done parenting by then right?? But like Afro said...my daughter!?! AW HAIL NO!
i think todd was just saying that stuff to incite alicia to anger. there's no way a dad is going to respect his daughter's choice to be a porn star or casually say, "well, it's her choice as an adult..." porno ain't cool.
also, on a more serious note, while i don't think porno is cool, i also don't think viewing it a few times makes you an addict. i don't think all things that are potentially addictive need to be avoided. the thing about porn that i can't condone is the way it dehumanizes people. they're no longer people with souls, but objects of sexual fantasy. i'm not supportive of most things that lead us to stop seeing people as people.
Bek, I totally agree with what you said about porn being dehumanizing and objectifying.
I usually wait until more opinions are shared, but I can't help it... I'll share now.
Another view of mine is that sex is a sacred act. I view it as such because it enables us to take part in the miracle of life--what I believe to be a joint effort between us and God. In addition, it is also sacred to me because it is the closest you can be to someone, sharing physical passion and/or the greatest of emotional or spiritual experiences. So yes, it is ALSO about the physical and can be JUST ABOUT the physical of course!! that's usually the reason why people have sex... but I believe whatever it is about it should be intimate and between two committed individuals who love each other.
Engaging in sexual fantasy that porn offers, detaches us from the idea of real relationships that happen between two REAL people and it fills us up with empty and temporary satisfaction. Real relationships nurture our whole beings with the true emotions and desires that actually take place within us and that can be reciprocated. Furthermore, porn takes our focus off of what should attract us to the sex in the first place--PEOPLE who have minds, opinions, feelings, etc. (like you said).
Thank you for your comment!!
Wow...really good points you made. It's all true of course, and hopefully we as parents suceed in instilling those values in our kids, but in the end they are accountable for their choices...
ps you got tagged.
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